5 New Year Resolutions for Moms
2017 was full of highs and lows for me. The fairytale of new mom life wore off 2 months in, & reality sunk in. In 2017, I had to learn a new role. The young, professional, working mom role. I had to learn how to trust my instincts, shed the “I want to be perfect image” and let my hair down. Here is my year in review, and the 5 new year resolutions for moms that I have for myself.
In 2017, I hit my 3-month, 6-month, & 12-month breastfeeding goal. I worked 40+ hours a week at an advertising agency. The struggle of continuing to breastfeed while spending 10 hours a day, 5 days a week away from Jaxon seemed impossible.
The stigma that young black women do not breastfeed hung over my head. I wanted to beat the odds, and I did. In 2018, I plan to continue to set goals for myself. Although I no longer nurse, it’s a perfect example of how if you set goals, & stick to them, you will succeed.
A mama’s intuition is something serious!
We KNOW how we feel, but sometimes, we don’t trust ourselves.
In 2018, I plan to stick to my gut, and have faith in my decision-making. For example, In 2017, we took Jaxon swimming for the first time. He was 8 months, and I had read too many stories about infants and swimming pools. And don’t get me started on dry drowning! However, we knew that the younger we got Jaxon acclimated to the water & in swimming lessons, we would be more safe than sorry. I could not get to that point, however, until I trusted MYSELF and my Mama instincts.
Have you ever felt pressured by societies expectations to make a parenting decision? Take a look. My son has both of his ears pierced. That was a decision that was not easily made. However, I realized that I was against it simply because society is against it. On this day, I learned that as long as my child is healthy and happy, I have to be confident in how I am raising him.
In 2018, I plan to be that Mom that makes parenting decisions not based off of what I think is best, and not what OTHERS think. You can read more on my blog about why we decided to pierce Jaxon’s ears here.
Eat cake! In 2017, I allowed myself to become 2nd. To keep up with working and being a mom, I forgot about myself. Because of that I suffered mentally, emotionally, and physically. When I would go out with friends, I did not allow myself to have fun. In 2018, I plan to let my hair down, relax & have fun.
“Mama gotta have a life too, Jody!”
For me, self-care isn’t just about bubble-baths & trips to the salon. It’s also about giving myself room to cry, be upset, vent, and sit quietly. It’s about giving myself the chance to have FUN, too. If I’m not taking care of myself to the best of my ability, then those bad vibes could transfer to the people around me.
Working Mom Guilt
Who else feels guilty every day they leave for work? I know I do. In 2017, I battled with working mom guilt. I would cry on the way to work, because I felt like I belonged with Jaxon. In 2018, I plan to create a life where I do not feel like I’m CHOOSING between my family and working. Instead, I want to feel joy in knowing I’m providing for my child, and I want to cherish all of the time we have together. Work stays at work, and my nights & weekends are all about family.
Thank you all for reading along with me, as I reflect on 2017, and anticipate 2018. Because of Black Moms Blog, I felt the confidence and inspiration to start my blog, BeBright Daily where it’s always my goal to inspire young mothers like myself. My hope for you all, as well as myself, is to follow these new year resolutions for moms, and take 2018 by storm!
Happy New Years, Mamas!