2017 was full of highs and lows for me. The fairytale of new mom life wore off 2 months in, & reality sunk in. In 2017, I had to learn a new role. The young, professional, working mom role. I had to learn how to trust my instincts, shed the “I want to be perfect image” and let my hair down. Here is my year in review, and the 5 new year resolutions for moms that I have for myself.
On This Day in 2016, I shared my birth story online. On this day, I am still in the bed. Undressed, unshowered, unmotivated. I do not want to get up. Yet, I have to shower, get dressed, and force myself take care of the new baby. I have to adjust to this new life as a mom. The only problem is that I am not adjusting to motherhood. I’ve only been home from the hospital for 2 weeks. I cry almost every day due to feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, and most importantly, in pain. All of those feelings came about because of my emergency C-section. This is my birth story.
Jaxon’s first birthday was this past Monday, November 13th, 2017. The day went by a lot faster than I wanted it to. However, it was decided early on that we were not going to throw Jaxon a first birthday party. Most people were disappointed when we told them we were not having a party. I think that they assumed it meant that we were just not going to celebrate it at all. Really, y’all? However, throwing a birthday party is not the only way to commemorate the first birthday, nor do I think it is the BEST way. There are many first birthday ideas, but I will highlight my top 5.
Piercing my son’s ears was not a decision that I made lightly. However, it was a decision that taught me a valuable parenting lesson. After a year-long debate between Marquis and I, I reluctantly decided to pierce Jaxon’s ears. And I do not regret it. If little girls get their ears pierced, what’s wrong if a little boy has earrings too? Instead of him growing up to possibly feel different for being a little boy with earrings, he will instead look up to his daddy, uncles, and other men and see that boys and men with earrings are a normal thing.
Baby’s first Halloween did not go exactly as I envisioned it. Last night was, surprisingly, on another level. And I have the pictures to prove it.
Once my maternity leave came to an end, I flew out of the house and burnt rubber down the interstate to work. I was desperate to be back in an environment that was not all about the baby. About a month or so after I started this new journey as a working mother, I began to feel anxious, sad, and guilty. That is when I knew I was dealing with working mom guilt. How can I overcome working mom guilt? Here are 5 ways to battle it.