I hear this comment a lot. I have never said this myself, but I have seen other people make the comment on social media. However, I want to take the time to address it. I have had this discussion briefly with other mothers to get their opinion. My opinion is this: I do not totally agree with the comment. Apparently, women who get pregnant and have a child lose their friends in the process. They stop inviting mamas to go out, they do not text or call to check up on the mom or their baby, they do not show up to the baby shower, etc. I can only speak from the experience of a new mother, but allow me to explain why I disagree. And if you think I’m wrong, then this would be a good time to reevaluate a few friendships.
The Fourth of July promises of sun, sand, vacation, fireworks, and FOOD. We won’t talk about patriotism. We. Just. Won’t. However, that is the exact opposite of what I ended up doing. I had a four day weekend, and I had so much free time, I did not know what to do with myself! Why use my weekdays off of work preparing food for a cookout, going to events, or mingling with people? That’s WAY too much energy to exert on the occasional off day. So, just to be clear, this post will not be about all of the amazing things I did during my four day weekend. However, in this Fourth of July recap, I will discuss what that four day weekend meant to me while explaining just how lazy I was!
Every working mama’s nightmare: Your supply drops a few days before a work trip. Yep. That is the struggle I was facing last week. My milk production dropped drastically before I had to go out of town for two days. I had to figure out how I was going to have six, eight-ounce bottles prepared for Jaxon. This isn’t a story about how I became the Fresh Prince of a town called Bel-Air, but more like the story about how I was able to increase milk supply quickly.
On June 18, 2016, we threw a cheap gender reveal party. I cut a gender reveal cake to reveal the color blue. From that point on, you were no longer a mystery. You were Jaxon *insert various names* Richards. From that point on, you had an identity. Because of that, I shed a few tears. From that point on, I felt like I really knew you.
Shoutout to Solange Knowles for her song on the album, A Seat at the Table featuring Q-Tip, with a flair of Aaliyah. In the song, she talks about taking a little time to escape from the sadness and intensity going on in the world and the need to just take a break and love herself, her husband, and her son. “…throughout that, [self-care] becomes a mission within itself,” Solange said. Although her need for self care is currently different than mine, it still resonates with me. It is my mission to practice better self care. Therefore, I feel the need to discuss five new mom self care tips for myself.
For Jaxon’s first Memorial Day holiday, we took another family trip to Chicago. Yes, I put him on an airplane again. Yes, naive Brittany thought it would be similar to his first trip on an airplane. No, it was not. I will get to that later. Just to warn you, I’m going to keep it real here. Babies at weddings and other events can either be a fun experience for everyone involved, or a headache.
“If you want to know who your real friends are, have a baby.” This is what happens to friendships after pregnancy.